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{June 12, 2012}   Projection and Borderline Personality Disorder: Part 1… from Beyond the Borderline Personality
She is just starting to write a series on Projection and Borderline Personality Disorder: Part 1, and this is a portion of Part 1 I received today.
Compartmentalization, splitting, and projection are ways that the ego continues to pretend that it is completely in control at all times. Unfortunately the reality of being human is anything but being in control at all times. The human experience is always shifting with reactive instincts and emotional motivations. While these experiences can sometimes be negative, they’re not always reprehensible, but for someone with a personality disorder this distinction may be blurry and the main sense of self tries to separate itself from things it knows are unsavory on some level. Further, while engaged in projection, individuals can be unable to access truthful memories, intentions, and experiences, even about their own nature, as is common in deep trauma.  This is deep subconscious type dissociation where a person really does believe that the projection and the “logic” behind the projection are real.
Dr. A.J.Mahari says, “The reality that people with BPD project out triggered dysregulated emotions onto others, attribute their own feelings, thoughts, devaluation and judgment to “other” and then feel “other” is victimizing them originates with the borderline’s inability to hold their own distressing feelings. This cycle of projection also has its roots in the borderline’s repetition compulsions wherein the other person is often lost in the “here and now”. To the person with BPD “now” fades into a time from the past and the person on whom he or she is projecting is no longer visible or seen for who he or she is but rather becomes a person from the borderline’s past with whom there was significant trauma, abandonment, and/or relational rupture with.”
When we shift our feelings from within to without, from Self to Other we are using a defense mechanism that essentially enables us to abdicate responsibility for what it is that we really feel. Doing this then separates us from our own very basic emotions. Being separated from our basic feelings also separates us from having the tools to meet our own needs. < —- This is part of my Therapist works on my detachment and dissociation so much. Not so much to deal with projection, but because not being able to connect to my own basic feelings inhibits me from having the tools to deal with my own problems as best as I could.
 
Emotional defenses, such as projection, protect us from experiencing the pain and uncomfortable feelings like guilt, shame, and rage. The Borderline defenses of projection, projective identification and splitting enable the Borderline to put and maintain distance between him/herself and the rest of the world in which lasting bonds and congruent relational ties are formed. These defenses are both a protection from and a barrier to intimacy.
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